Newly Weds, New Parents & Not Enough Time. Help!
If I would have known we'd get pregnant within the first month of "trying" I would have waited. There I said it.
I was on birth control for like 11 years, yep a long time. So naturally when I went off it they say "Oh it could take up to 12 months for you to get pregnant". So like any newlywed with baby fever I thought we should start trying RIGHT NOW! So we did. And then the next month we were pregnant, like that. Obviously we were (and still are) ecstatic, over the moon, giddy about it. We had created life together and there is nothing, absolutely NOTHING cooler than that. So we prepared for the birth of beautiful baby girl.
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Then came the sleepless nights. The crying. The no more husband wife time. The ability to go to the bathroom alone. The ease of going to the grocery store. All those things are either WAY harder or completely out the window now.
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade my mom life for a million dollars, maybe 2 million, just kidding. I love seeing her sleepy little face every morning and watching her grow into this amazing little person. I honestly love being a mommy. Being a mom is what I was put on this earth to do.
I just wish, sometimes, that we would have waited just a little longer. Jimmy wanted to. He wanted more time to be us. More alone time. More time to go on dates, vacations, SLEEP. I told him he was CRAZY cakes and we NEEDED a baby NOW! Now I think I'm the crazy cakes. You see I miss time with Jimmy, just he and I. Where we could pick up and go to dinner and a movie and maybe grab a drink afterward. We could go on a car trip without the toddler who HATES the car. We could relax after work and just do our own thing.
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I knew all of this would change when we became parents but I didn't realize how much I would crave the time I took for granted with my husband. I really thought life would pretty much be the same, just with another person added in the mix. How wrong I was. I feel like now that we have Kendall we neglect our husband and wife relationship and focus on our mom and dad roles. So often do we get to 8 o'clock before we talk about anything besides Kendall. I miss our silly conversations about nothing and everything. I miss just being with him, together. I think that's the thing I miss the most about pre-Kendall life. I guess maybe we just need to find a balance now. Now that Kendall is a little older and doesn't require SO much from us maybe we can focus more on our relationship. Maybe we can schedule one date night a month to just get out and reconnect as husband and wife. Maybe after we put Kendall down at night we should turn off our phones & computers and just be together.
So I guess I'm going to open this up to you guys.
What are some ways you stay husband and wife?
How do you put that relationship to the front burner along with being mom and dad? Obviously people do this every day and I know we can get there too, we just need a lil push.
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